Still stuck after years of practice?
Still stuck after years of practice?
Restlessness
You practice deeply but you keep hitting the same wall. Whatever you do it just doesn‘t resolve it. You may see it clearly and worked on it for years, but it simply doesn‘t resolve.
Why Practice Plateaus
Why Practice Plateaus
A deeply rooted belief can sometimes feel like a sheer reality. It holds the undesirable pattern in place and usually cannot be seen through from the inside. What changes it is a direct felt contradiction, whereby the belief is met at the same time as something that disproves it. Practice does it sometimes. However, it does not do it for every belief and it does not do it reliably. That's where we plateau.
A deeply rooted belief can sometimes feel like a sheer reality. It holds the undesirable pattern in place and usually cannot be seen through from the inside. What changes it is a direct felt contradiction, whereby the belief is met at the same time as something that disproves it. Practice does it sometimes. However, it does not do it for every belief and it does not do it reliably. That's where we plateau.
A deeply rooted belief can sometimes feel like a sheer reality. It holds the undesirable pattern in place and usually cannot be seen through from the inside. What changes it is a direct felt contradiction, whereby the belief is met at the same time as something that disproves it. Practice does it sometimes. However, it does not do it for every belief and it does not do it reliably. That's where we plateau.
How the work goes
How the work goes
A pattern is usually the effect of one or a few hidden beliefs. In the work I do, I make use of a process called memory reconsolidation, which describes how a blief can update rather than be suppressed or managed. Simplified, I work like this:
Locating the Pattern.
We generally start with settling attention in the body. This way the material becomes reachable. This is a practice in its own right that I guide and many clients keep using outside the sessions. From this grounded and embodied place, we go to the moment the belief actually unfolded its undesirable effects and re-enter it experientially. We stay there until its a present and lived experience. Then we investigate.
Locating the Pattern.
We generally start with settling attention in the body. This way the material becomes reachable. This is a practice in its own right that I guide and many clients keep using outside the sessions. From this grounded and embodied place, we go to the moment the belief actually unfolded its undesirable effects and re-enter it experientially. We stay there until its a present and lived experience. Then we investigate.
Reaching the Belief.
We usually discover something we did not expect and suddenly the pattern that never made sense to have, now makes sense. That recognition is already liberating, but we are not done here. Even though the pattern now arises in clarity, it still arises at this point in the process.
Reaching the Belief.
We usually discover something we did not expect and suddenly the pattern that never made sense to have, now makes sense. That recognition is already liberating, but we are not done here. Even though the pattern now arises in clarity, it still arises at this point in the process.
Meeting the Contradiction.
Then we hold the active belief experientially alongside something that disproves it. When those two meet, the old belief can update rather than simply be seen. When this occurs, clients typically describe the pattern as losing its grip without needing any more effort managing. Many report more ease and that practice opens up again.
Meeting the Contradiction.
Then we hold the active belief experientially alongside something that disproves it. When those two meet, the old belief can update rather than simply be seen. When this occurs, clients typically describe the pattern as losing its grip without needing any more effort managing. Many report more ease and that practice opens up again.
In the words of my clients
In the words of my clients
"Aron has accompanied me through challenging topics over several months. Each of his sessions touched me deeply, as I rarely ever felt so seen and understood. The way he navigates a session is both highly focused and effective, while remaining incredibly attuned and compassionate. He has an exceptional ability to quickly identify the deeper root of an issue and guide the process directly towards it. If you're looking for someone you can truly feel safe with and let go, I wholeheartedly recommend working with Aron."
"Aron has accompanied me through challenging topics over several months. Each of his sessions touched me deeply, as I rarely ever felt so seen and understood. The way he navigates a session is both highly focused and effective, while remaining incredibly attuned and compassionate. He has an exceptional ability to quickly identify the deeper root of an issue and guide the process directly towards it. If you're looking for someone you can truly feel safe with and let go, I wholeheartedly recommend working with Aron."
"Aron has accompanied me through challenging topics over several months. Each of his sessions touched me deeply, as I rarely ever felt so seen and understood. The way he navigates a session is both highly focused and effective, while remaining incredibly attuned and compassionate. He has an exceptional ability to quickly identify the deeper root of an issue and guide the process directly towards it. If you're looking for someone you can truly feel safe with and let go, I wholeheartedly recommend working with Aron."
"I have felt restless all my life. Always striving for something more, not knowing what “more” should be. I had a hard time just sitting on the beach and enjoying the moment. My mind always went to two particular thoughts: “You do not deserve this yet” and “What’s next?”. During the past 6 months with Aron, that changed. We worked through my limiting believes, discovering depths I was not aware of and putting light on the thoughts which kept me from enjoying the beach (and many others). Aron always finds the right mix of guidance, through the right questions or small exercises to help me when I get stuck, and active listening, to give me enough space to encounter my thoughts and feelings. His work is not like the coaching or therapy sessions I had before. There is no script, no forced agenda. Just his presence and a strong sense that he is deeply enjoying what he is doing. I began working with Aron out of curiosity and with no big expectations. In hindsight, I recognise the hours we spent together had a huge impact on my wellbeing. Every session leaves me lighter and with more clarity. I could not have imagined how many beliefs were holding me back in all parts of my live. Uncovering one after the other together with Aron lets me look forward to every session."
"I have felt restless all my life. Always striving for something more, not knowing what “more” should be. I had a hard time just sitting on the beach and enjoying the moment. My mind always went to two particular thoughts: “You do not deserve this yet” and “What’s next?”. During the past 6 months with Aron, that changed. We worked through my limiting believes, discovering depths I was not aware of and putting light on the thoughts which kept me from enjoying the beach (and many others). Aron always finds the right mix of guidance, through the right questions or small exercises to help me when I get stuck, and active listening, to give me enough space to encounter my thoughts and feelings. His work is not like the coaching or therapy sessions I had before. There is no script, no forced agenda. Just his presence and a strong sense that he is deeply enjoying what he is doing. I began working with Aron out of curiosity and with no big expectations. In hindsight, I recognise the hours we spent together had a huge impact on my wellbeing. Every session leaves me lighter and with more clarity. I could not have imagined how many beliefs were holding me back in all parts of my live. Uncovering one after the other together with Aron lets me look forward to every session."
"I have felt restless all my life. Always striving for something more, not knowing what “more” should be. I had a hard time just sitting on the beach and enjoying the moment. My mind always went to two particular thoughts: “You do not deserve this yet” and “What’s next?”. During the past 6 months with Aron, that changed. We worked through my limiting believes, discovering depths I was not aware of and putting light on the thoughts which kept me from enjoying the beach (and many others). Aron always finds the right mix of guidance, through the right questions or small exercises to help me when I get stuck, and active listening, to give me enough space to encounter my thoughts and feelings. His work is not like the coaching or therapy sessions I had before. There is no script, no forced agenda. Just his presence and a strong sense that he is deeply enjoying what he is doing. I began working with Aron out of curiosity and with no big expectations. In hindsight, I recognise the hours we spent together had a huge impact on my wellbeing. Every session leaves me lighter and with more clarity. I could not have imagined how many beliefs were holding me back in all parts of my live. Uncovering one after the other together with Aron lets me look forward to every session."
C.P., Coach, Yogic Spiritual Practitioner
C.P., Coach, Yogic Spiritual Practitioner
C.P., Coach,
Yogic Spiritual Practitioner
J.N., Project Manager, Vipassana Practitioner
J.N., Project Manager, Vipassana Practitioner
J.N., Project Manager,
Vipassana Practitioner
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This isn't about practicing more.
This isn't about practicing more.
You have already done plenty of practice and lots of honest self-inquiry. None of this effort and time has been wasted, this was and still is great work. Though more of the same practice is unlikely to resolve the current challenge. So, what we do here will differ in the kind of work and it can sit next to your usual practice.
You have already done plenty of practice and lots of honest self-inquiry. None of this effort and time has been wasted, this was and still is great work. Though more of the same practice is unlikely to resolve the current challenge. So, what we do here will differ in the kind of work and it can sit next to your usual practice.
You may see a pattern clearly a thousand of times and still it may continue to run just like it always has…
You may see a pattern clearly a thousand of times and still it may continue to run just like it always has…
Frequently Asked Questions.
Some answers to some of the most common questions. Didn't find your answer? Send me a message.
Who is this for?
Experienced practitioners who keep meeting the same pattern which practice could not resolve. A willingness and openness and curiosity to look at your own experience will be helpful.
Who is this for?
Experienced practitioners who keep meeting the same pattern which practice could not resolve. A willingness and openness and curiosity to look at your own experience will be helpful.
Who is this not for?
Who is this not for?
Individuals in acute crisis, if you are in psychiatric treatment or have recently been, if you lose time or cannot recall parts of conversations, if you are currently destabilized ie. from a retreat.
In such a situation it means that I cannot be of help and that other things should be prioritized first. If I notice, I may point you towards people who are in a position to support you. This is coaching and not therapy and I do not diagnose or treat anything.
How is this different from therapy?
How is this different from therapy?
Most therapy builds insight, regulation or a corrective relationship over time. In therapy clients learn to understand their past and manage their pattern better. Therapy often work with the past and often with individuals who struggle to function in their day to day life.
What I do is coaching. I care about what is still present and how beliefs shape todays experiences of my clients. I also work narrower: I track one belief which my client decides to work on, and work toward resolving it rather than managing it. I work with stable clients functioning in day to day life.
I don‘t do clinical work. I am not a therapist, counsellor or mental health professional. I do not diagnose or treat people.
Should I stop working with my teacher or therapist?
Should I stop working with my teacher or therapist?
Nope. Your teacher guides your practice and your therapist covers ground that I cannot cover. We work on a specific belief that results in undesirable patterns and can do this alongside whatever support network you may have in place.
If you are in therapy, its worth telling your therapist about it, as its good that the people who support you closely know whats happening. Also, I would be grateful to hear if you work with a therapist.
As it is online, how do i best prepare for the session?
As it is online, how do i best prepare for the session?
Not much preparation needed. A quiet room without distraction and preferably nothing heavy or big right after the call. I suggest an extra 15 minute spare time at minimum just to let things settle but its not mandatory at all. I had clients move on to meetings right after the call and that worked for them as well. I prefer to take things easy afterwards and so I suggest similar to my clients.
Headphones help. A stable internet connection and functioning camera matter more.
If you have a clear pattern on your mind for the session, great, if not we‘ll get there together.
What if I don't know what my pattern is?
What if I don't know what my pattern is?
thats okey. Most people don‘t know it precisely. Knowing that something is stuck is good enough and we can work with that. Finding whats below this is part of the work I do so its not at all expected, though some people come in with clarity already. Both is fine.
Frequently Asked Questions.
Some answers to some of the most common questions. Didn't find your answer? Send me a message.
Who is this for?
Experienced practitioners who keep meeting the same pattern which practice could not resolve. A willingness and openness and curiosity to look at your own experience will be helpful.
Who is this for?
Experienced practitioners who keep meeting the same pattern which practice could not resolve. A willingness and openness and curiosity to look at your own experience will be helpful.
Who is this not for?
Who is this not for?
Individuals in acute crisis, if you are in psychiatric treatment or have recently been, if you lose time or cannot recall parts of conversations, if you are currently destabilized ie. from a retreat.
In such a situation it means that I cannot be of help and that other things should be prioritized first. If I notice, I may point you towards people who are in a position to support you. This is coaching and not therapy and I do not diagnose or treat anything.
How is this different from therapy?
How is this different from therapy?
Most therapy builds insight, regulation or a corrective relationship over time. In therapy clients learn to understand their past and manage their pattern better. Therapy often work with the past and often with individuals who struggle to function in their day to day life.
What I do is coaching. I care about what is still present and how beliefs shape todays experiences of my clients. I also work narrower: I track one belief which my client decides to work on, and work toward resolving it rather than managing it. I work with stable clients functioning in day to day life.
I don‘t do clinical work. I am not a therapist, counsellor or mental health professional. I do not diagnose or treat people.
Should I stop working with my teacher or therapist?
Should I stop working with my teacher or therapist?
Nope. Your teacher guides your practice and your therapist covers ground that I cannot cover. We work on a specific belief that results in undesirable patterns and can do this alongside whatever support network you may have in place.
If you are in therapy, its worth telling your therapist about it, as its good that the people who support you closely know whats happening. Also, I would be grateful to hear if you work with a therapist.
As it is online, how do i best prepare for the session?
As it is online, how do i best prepare for the session?
Not much preparation needed. A quiet room without distraction and preferably nothing heavy or big right after the call. I suggest an extra 15 minute spare time at minimum just to let things settle but its not mandatory at all. I had clients move on to meetings right after the call and that worked for them as well. I prefer to take things easy afterwards and so I suggest similar to my clients.
Headphones help. A stable internet connection and functioning camera matter more.
If you have a clear pattern on your mind for the session, great, if not we‘ll get there together.
What if I don't know what my pattern is?
What if I don't know what my pattern is?
thats okey. Most people don‘t know it precisely. Knowing that something is stuck is good enough and we can work with that. Finding whats below this is part of the work I do so its not at all expected, though some people come in with clarity already. Both is fine.
Frequently Asked Questions.
Some answers to some of the most common questions. Didn't find your answer? Send me a message.
Who is this for?
Experienced practitioners who keep meeting the same pattern which practice could not resolve. A willingness and openness and curiosity to look at your own experience will be helpful.
Who is this for?
Experienced practitioners who keep meeting the same pattern which practice could not resolve. A willingness and openness and curiosity to look at your own experience will be helpful.
Who is this not for?
Who is this not for?
Individuals in acute crisis, if you are in psychiatric treatment or have recently been, if you lose time or cannot recall parts of conversations, if you are currently destabilized ie. from a retreat.
In such a situation it means that I cannot be of help and that other things should be prioritized first. If I notice, I may point you towards people who are in a position to support you. This is coaching and not therapy and I do not diagnose or treat anything.
How is this different from therapy?
How is this different from therapy?
Most therapy builds insight, regulation or a corrective relationship over time. In therapy clients learn to understand their past and manage their pattern better. Therapy often work with the past and often with individuals who struggle to function in their day to day life.
What I do is coaching. I care about what is still present and how beliefs shape todays experiences of my clients. I also work narrower: I track one belief which my client decides to work on, and work toward resolving it rather than managing it. I work with stable clients functioning in day to day life.
I don‘t do clinical work. I am not a therapist, counsellor or mental health professional. I do not diagnose or treat people.
Should I stop working with my teacher or therapist?
Should I stop working with my teacher or therapist?
Nope. Your teacher guides your practice and your therapist covers ground that I cannot cover. We work on a specific belief that results in undesirable patterns and can do this alongside whatever support network you may have in place.
If you are in therapy, its worth telling your therapist about it, as its good that the people who support you closely know whats happening. Also, I would be grateful to hear if you work with a therapist.
As it is online, how do i best prepare for the session?
As it is online, how do i best prepare for the session?
Not much preparation needed. A quiet room without distraction and preferably nothing heavy or big right after the call. I suggest an extra 15 minute spare time at minimum just to let things settle but its not mandatory at all. I had clients move on to meetings right after the call and that worked for them as well. I prefer to take things easy afterwards and so I suggest similar to my clients.
Headphones help. A stable internet connection and functioning camera matter more.
If you have a clear pattern on your mind for the session, great, if not we‘ll get there together.
What if I don't know what my pattern is?
What if I don't know what my pattern is?
thats okey. Most people don‘t know it precisely. Knowing that something is stuck is good enough and we can work with that. Finding whats below this is part of the work I do so its not at all expected, though some people come in with clarity already. Both is fine.
Get in Touch
The first session costs nothing.
Tell me what‘s been going on. A few sentences is enough.
I answer everything myself and I‘ll let you know honestly if I‘m the right person to work with. If I don‘t think I am I will try to point you somewhere better.
Get in Touch
The first session costs nothing.
Tell me what‘s been going on. A few sentences is enough.
I answer everything myself and I‘ll let you know honestly if I‘m the right person to work with. If I don‘t think I am I will try to point you somewhere better.
Get in Touch
The first session costs nothing.
Tell me what‘s been going on. A few sentences is enough.
I answer everything myself and I‘ll let you know honestly if I‘m the right person to work with. If I don‘t think I am I will try to point you somewhere better.